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Fulfilled
Get what you want from your relationship in 90 days or less, even if he doesn’t change a thing.
a 1:1, in-depth mentorship that will transform the way you relate TO Your partner.
(No recordings, just you and me creating your new life.)
The biggest reason women don't feel fulfilled in their relationship is because...
We’re relying on our partner to make us feel loved, safe, secure, worthy and valued.
And when he doesn’t do it right, or enough... (like when we tell him we need more romance and he takes us to Applebees), we feel unfulfilled by him. No matter how good of a man he is, or how much he tries.
And this turns us into women we don’t want to be…
We freak out over the littlest things and constantly question if our reactions are crazy or legit. (hello spinning out over a two-word text response after you share your day drama).
We get angry and resentful when he doesn't love us the way we need. (like when you're KILLING it in this dress and he says nothing.)
We feel drained, like we're giving and giving and not getting enough in return. (you cook his favorite meals, surprise him with sexy lingerie, offer to help him with his biz and he... takes you to chipotle. Again.)
We feel unattractive and invisible and worry we're not sexy or interesting enough for him.
We're terrified of being trapped with a partner who doesn't see us, appreciate us and will never be able to give us what we need.
It feels like we always have to ask him for more.
We love him, under it all he's a good man, but we secretly wonder if he's right for us, since we're always wanting more.
You long to be the open, vivacious woman you are with him, but you don’t feel safe to be her because he’s not giving you what you need.
All you need is for him to do "the thing" and you'd feel open and happy again. But...
When you try to talk about it and ask him for what you want, it ends up in a fight.
And when you stay silent because you don't want to be too needy you feel resentful and disconnected.
After decades of dealing with this pattern myself, here's my loving truth bomb...
You will never feel like you're getting enough from your relationship as long as you keep trying to force him to give you what you need. (But don't worry, he will)
Women THRIVE in relationship when they're able to feel the way they want without relying on him, pushing him or forcing him to make it happen.
And...
You're not crazy. Things ARE out of balance. Your consistent longing and craving for more is a sign you've outgrown this pattern and you're ready to relate from a whole new place.
Most women are deeply wired to rely on our partner.
Which makes how loved, worthy, valued and seen we feel 100% dependent on what our partner does or doesn't do.
* No man deserves this much power over us.*
It's not about becoming a hyper-independent, island of a woman.
It's about subtly changing how you approach your partner, which inspires him to naturally give us exactly what we need.
This is a re-opening, a remembering, that creates a whole new embodied you.
You Can thrive in your relationship and get your needs met without pushing, demanding or begging him to show up. This is the transformation your Disappointment is calling for.
And when you do... Holy f*ck...
You feel full, juicy and adored no matter what he does or doesn't do so you stop being reactive, stay centered no matter what mood he's in and enjoy your time together instead of fighting over the small shit.
You radiate a confidence and joy that magnetizes him to you and inspires him into action. No more feeling like you have to beg for attention and affection.
You feel heard and valued when you share your needs and boundaries.
Your anxiety relaxes and is replaced with a calm certainty so you stop checking your phone, you don't dissect every message, convo or action, you just.... live.
Your reactivity disappears and the things that triggered you before, now don't. (it's magical... for real)
You feel seen and appreciated for exactly who you are and stop feeling like you need to feel fixed or healed in order for things to be good with him.
You don't feel exhausted from a one-sided relationship and have the energy and desire to give to your friends, hobbies and other interests.
Your sexuality is off the charts. Hello wild, cervical orgasms and literally always wanting it.
You prioritize your time, preferences, desires, needs and space -without the guilt, shame and anxiety. No more secret fear that he's going to lose interest if you make other plans.
His 'stuff' stays his responsibility and doesn't bother you like it did before and you don't NEED him to change it. In fact, you're able to show up for him in a whole new way, deepening his connection with you.
If he's been giving breadcrumbs... it's obvious and you don't want them anymore.
And if he's a good man who hasn't been seeing you, you instantly transform in front of each others eyes and fall in love all over again.
If you're Reading this, you're ready to STOP waiting ON HIM to change, AND FINALLY CREATE THE FULFILLMENT YOU LONG FOR.
Join me in...
Fulfilled
A 1:1 mentorship program that will transform your relationship with him, and you, in 90 days or less.
Here's what it looks like:
-3 months of deep, 1:1 coaching to uncover all the ways you, uniquely, are relying on, waiting, hoping or pushing for your partner to change, and creating the adjustments you need to get your needs met and thrive.
-Tailored-to-you exercises dependent on your unique circumstances, situation and development.
-Weekly 1:1 Zoom calls
-In-between session, daily support with voice coaching
-monthly reviews to assess and refine our direction
THE INVESTMENT:
$500/month or $1,500 total
only 10 spots available
This is the most in-depth 1:1 I’ll ever offer at this price. Once my group coaching program comes out, the price will double.
If you’re ready to dive in right now, click the link below.
If you have any questions, want to make sure this will help your situation, or just want a vibe check with me, DM me and let’s chat.
I’m so excited for you to start relating from a place of your own power. It is life changing!
your no-pressure guarantee. If it's not right for you, it's not right for me.
Mentoring is a mutual process and results will depend on so many factors. While I won't be able to offer a refund at the end of our time together, if you decide this isn't the right setting for you within the first two weeks, I'll refund your full investment no questions asked.
What you'll master...
Overcome your Triggers...
And retrain your nervous system. Our triggers and hyper reactivity are GOLD. Learn how to transform your belief system and nervous system through the 'shitty' things that happen in life and re-create your reality from the inside-out.
get out of the mental looping
Our minds can make us or break us. And our patterns and defense systems know precisely how to use our mind to keep us in the same place. Even if we're dying to grow and shift. Learn how to master your mind so it's working FOR you, not against you, to create the love life you long for.
break free from insecurities
Our insecurities are glowing beacons for where we have become attached to external validation in some way - i.e. our partner. I'll show you how to turn your insecurities into personal power so you step into the experience of your authentic, beloved self.
CommunicatE your truth
Our needs are 100%, totally valid. Each and every one. But... there's communicating them through our wounds, or from our 'oracle'. One way inspires defensiveness and creates... more wounds! And the other inspires love-centered action and connected discussions. It's time to step into your oracle and speak your truth from the true you.
Rewire your relationship to emotions
Emotions do serve a purpose. The trouble comes when we don't have the capacity to hold them, are to rigid to let them move, or don't give them a safe space to exist. If you want to feel SAFE, HELD & SUPPORTED in love, we have to transform the way we relate to our emotional world as well.
Clear your programs
Our beliefs and patterns are a product of our subconscious programming and the bedrock for the kind of love we create. If we want to create big change, we have to know how to work with the subconscious to create the love we truly desire. Our SC is not an enemy but rather an incredibly powerful tool.
When we learn not to rely on him, we completely rewire our relationship to every system in our being and it absolutely up-levels the way we relate with our partner.
I can help you create the fulfilling love life you're longing for
I was chronically unhappy in my relationships with good men and since I was doing all the inner work, it had to be him.
I finally learned my lack of fulfillment in love had nothing to do with him. It never did.
After spending 20 years rewiring deep codependence, I can help you find that deep fulfillment without the rollercoaster. Now I'm I'm in the easiest, most joyful relationship of my life (I married him!) and it still... has nothing to do with him.
Twelve years ago I started sharing my journey on T&A Talk Sex podcast reaching 60k listeners/month, and continue to do so through my free content on YouTube, Instagram and Tiktok. Join me there to transform the way you relate.
Certified in Somatic Attachment Therapy and Integrative Somatic Trauma.
Client love
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"Stephanie has a keen wisdom, deep empathy, and unique life experience that i believe makes her a perfect guide for anyone seeking to expand their self awareness and feel a sense of mastery in their own lives. I have always known Stephanie to be on the cutting edge of what is most needed right now. I attribute this to her practiced intuition and experienced one-on-one client work."
-Christina Hepburn, Professional Cuddler & Thought Leader on the Healing Effects of Touch in Our Culture (NBC, MTV, Refinery29)
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"Stephanie helped me through a tough transition and she continues to help me regularly! She was absolutely critical to my partner and mine’s success; attentive, knowledgeable, genuine and empathetic. I didn't feel nervous or have any discomfort communicating my challenges to her. I would highly recommend Stephanie to anyone. I know I met her as a client, but she is so easy to relate to, I feel like she has become a true friend! Work with her, it will definitely be worth it! Promise!
~B.D. Washington, DC
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"Stephanie’s ability to illuminate my true path forward impressed me. She helped me discover some hidden fears and needs I was avoiding that were creating a lot of turmoil both in my personal and professional life. Her way of working with you gives you the ability to help yourself going forward, she teaches you to be the teacher. Stephanie develops your abilities to evaluate and see what is important by bringing out the best way for you to do things, not just the way she evaluates the situation, which makes working with her extremely empowering. I am so grateful for my time with her."
~S.P.
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Create the fulfillment you've been longing for from the inside out, and watch your whole world transform.
You might be wondering...
But what about him? He needs to be held accountable too.
Yes, girl, 100%. This isn't about taking on all the responsibility of the relationship ourselves. The deeper you go into this process, the more able you are to hold firm and loving boundaries that either inspire change and genuine discussion or illuminate incompatibilities.
Does this work with masculine/feminine polarity?
How could it not? Everything is polarity. While I don't often speak in polarity language, it's core to human nature and cannot be avoided. This work addresses healing and balancing the polarities within us, so we can create a balanced polarity with our partner as well.
How is this different from the other relationship stuff I've tried that hasn't worked?
There's a lot of great relationship work out there. Yet, I find much of it can focus on fixing external things - communication skills, your partner, scheduling, even attachment styles can still be externally focused. And while this can be helpful, it usually doesn't go deep enough and tends to go a lot slower.
Steph, I've done ALLLL the inner work. Nothing's changed
If this is you, it might be that all the inner work you've been doing is actually over-processing. A classic and sneaky defense mechanism that keeps us mentally and emotionally looping so we don't make the real, visceral, embodied changes we need. (I spent YEARS here). OR, you're choosing to stay with a guy that's totally incompatible with you- the question is... why?
Women have to do MORE work? Isn't it the guys' turn to catch up?
Yes, men have a lot to catch up on i.e. emotional maturity and self reflection. And, as much work as we've done, women have centuries of programming that keeps us reliant on our partners for our sene of value and belonging and it doesn't disappear after 60 years of feminism. We still have a lot of work to do in reclaiming our own voices and power and it shows up most in our relationships.
But doesn't my partner have to be involved for real change to happen?
Yes and no. Change starts with one person and it tends to be the women because we're the visionaries in the relationship. We know when things are out of wack. It's just a matter of shifting deeply enough it reaches out to our physical world. When a woman's relationship with herself changes, he will respond one way or another. And you can decide, with clarity, where to go from there.
IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO THRIVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
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