Enough with not enough.
Stop making it about him. It's time to start asking why you keep creating a love that leaves you starving.
🌟 LIVE 2 hr Training Wednesday September 9th 6pm PDT (replay avail) 🌟
$199 $47
You want more from him. More attention, more romance, more support. But no matter how much you ask... nothing really changes.
You've communicated your needs ad noseum.
Asked him to show up differently.
Changed your tone.
Rehearsed convos in your head.
Studied your attachment patterns and hashed out your trauma and triggers...
You feel like you've done everything you can on your end but nothing's working.
Even worse... you know he loves you and he's a good man... so what in the actual f*$k?
Here's the thing... So much of the time alllll that work we've been doing so diligently is often a very SKILLFULLY designed defense mechanism that keeps us from seeing the ONE thing that actually determines if our partner can meet us or not.
The result? We stay exactly where we are - not getting enough, swimming in hurt, anger and resentment and focused on him.
Because at this point, the only way you can see things changing is if he actually decides to change his ways.
You've been asking, "How do I get him to show up differently?"
When the real question is...
"Why do I keep creating a reality where what I need most is consistently out of reach?"
Consciously, you want the thing. But underneath it all, your system is telling him a completely different story...
Relationships are mirrors...
And they make the unseen, seen. The beliefs that quietly create every experience and bend our perspective. The neglected feelings. The default behaviors and assumptions...
So if your needs are consistently not being met...
It's a sign your system may actually be telling him something like, "Depending on someone else isn't safe," "My desires don't matter," If I don't do everything he'll leave me..." And that's what his system responds to 24/7. Not your words. Not your tone. Not your disappointment.
It also shapes how you see his every word & action.
He may love the sh*t out of you & genuinely be showing up in some way. But no matter what, to you it's never enough (because it ISN'T). He feels angry, frustrated and like he's failing, and you stay disappointed, resentful and wanting more. And the cycle deepens.
To change a relationship that consistently doesn't meet your needs, you have to change what you're broadcasting to him (and you) FIRST.
When this happens...
A. How you experience him can change.
B. How you show up can change.
C. How he experiences you can change.
D. How he shows up can change.
Any ONE of these can be a catalyst for tremendous change...
"Wait... are you saying this is all on me? Again? What about him?"
Oof, I say this with love.... Yes, it is on you.
Not because you're broken and he's not. Not because he gets to skip accountability while you do all the heavy lifting. Again.
But because YOU get to decide how loved you are. Not him.
YOU need to lead and set the tone on how to love you from the inside out.
If you're constantly broadcasting "I'm not worthy of love", that's what you're gonna get.
To put ourselves back in the driver's seat of our own love-life, the first step is we gotta look under our own hood to see what it is we're *actually* saying we want and will - or won't - allow.
And that's what I'm gonna show you how to do in this training...
Not just how to be aware of what you're broadcasting, but how to actually step into the part of you that knows how to love and be loved the way you've been longing for - and allows it.
join me LIVE in this 2-hour training ⬇
Enough with Not Enough.
Find out what your system is REALLY telling him, and get the step-by-step map on how to change it to create love that genuinely meets you.
*Replay available for a limited time if you can't make it live, but we'll be doing live coaching and your presence helps tremendously!
*Show up live and you're in the draw to win a free 1:1 session with me to speed up your process!
*At the close, I'll share how to go deeper with me if you want to, but this workshop is completely whole on its own. You'll leave with everything you need to start creating something different.
$199 $47
Here's what will shift
FROM HOPELESS TO CLEAR & CONFIDENT: THE REFRAME
You'll go from feeling trapped in a relationship that only gets better if HE decides to change, to feeling genuinely clear, liberated and excited, because you'll finally see that the thing you've been waiting for him to give you has been in your hands the whole time.
WHAT IS YOUR SYSTEM ACTUALLY TELLING HIM?
I'll guide you into discovering what your system has really been communicating to him so you can understand exactly why nothing you've tried has landed.
HOW TO CHANGE WHAT YOU BROADCAST TO HIM
It's great to know WHAT your broadcasting, but then what? Walk away with my clear map of what you need to do to go from a love-life that under-serves to one that genuinely meets you.
Don't waste More time feeling invisible and Unsupported... find out exactly why YOUR system is making you feel starved.
Perfect for you if...
You know it's not totally on him, but also, kind of yeah 😅
You've tried everything and you're still frustrated, disappointed and genuinely at a loss for what comes next.
🌟 You're single & Healing 🧘🏻♀️
You're not in it right now, but this is SO your pattern and you wanna massage this baby out so your next relationship can be your best one yet.
You know your issues are causing the trouble but... 😫
You see that your insecurities and issues are what's really holding you guys back -at least partly, but for the life of you, you can't see the way out and you're worried you're gonna sabotage something good.
🪄 You know you create your own reality... sort of 🌟
You may not understand exactly how it all works, but deep down you know you're the creator of your own reality and change starts from within, and you're ready to see how that works in your relationships.
If this page makes you angry...😡
If you feel like I'm letting him off the hook or putting it all and you and you're pissed reading this, this probably isn't for you. If you feel that way a little bit but underneath it there's a hint of calm, peace or hope.... we can work with that.
Why I know this works.
I spent years being loved by GREAT men. But I couldn't really see it. No matter what, I always felt unfulfilled and I was convinced it was their blocks, their inability to show up the way I needed that was the problem.
I'd done years of self help, they hadn't. Clearly, I was the one that had done the work, right?
Then one night, in the middle of a huge fight, I finally saw it. A gigantic chasm of unworthiness deep inside me I'd been outsourcing to every man I'd ever been with. Asking, demanding they fill something all the love in the world couldn't touch.
The moment I stopped going to them for it and started walking alongside myself, everything changed. I became the happy, easy to please -but boundaried, vivacious, carefree and adored woman I always wanted to be.
All the work I do here is to show you the path out I took myself. Because every woman deserves to shine and be loved as the wild, beautiful, unique creature she is.
ABOUT STEPH
Stephanie has a keen wisdom, deep empathy, and unique life experience that i believe makes her a perfect guide for anyone seeking to expand their self awareness and feel a sense of mastery in their own lives. I have always known Stephanie to be on the cutting edge of what is most needed right now. I attribute this to her practiced intuition and experienced one-on-one client work."
-Christina Hepburn (nbd, mtv, refinery 29)
Stephanie helped me through a tough transition and she continues to help me regularly! She was absolutely critical to my partner and mine’s success; attentive, knowledgeable, genuine and empathetic. I didn't feel nervous or have any discomfort communicating my challenges to her. I would highly recommend Stephanie to anyone. I know I met her as a client, but she is so easy to relate to, I feel like she has become a true friend! Work with her, it will definitely be worth it! Promise!
- B.D., Washington DC
Stephanie’s ability to illuminate my true path forward impressed me. She helped me discover some hidden fears and needs I was avoiding that were creating a lot of turmoil both in my personal and professional life. Her way of working with you gives you the ability to help yourself going forward, she teaches you to be the teacher. Stephanie develops your abilities to evaluate and see what is important by bringing out the best way for you to do things, not just the way she evaluates the situation, which makes working with her extremely empowering. I am so grateful for my time with her.
- S.P.
