"A super practical tool - and a VERY fun gift."
give your partner the operating manual they never got- yours
Skip the guessing, misunderstanding & fighting and give them the clarity they need to love you better - faster. (with a dose of humor)
Most relationships don't struggle from lack of love, they struggle from lack of clarity.
You've just had a fight and still feel prickly... you're sulking, quiet and huffing.
So they give you space.
But deep down what you really want, what you long for... is a great big bear hug and to hear, "I still love you, even when you're a spiky lizard."
Communicating our needs - our deep, real, wounded ones, can be harrrrrd!!
That's why fight instead! 😅
When we're with someone long-term, we slowwwwly learn -conflict by conflict- what the deeper needs are under our partner's reactions and behaviors (god willing!)
But even after YEARS of being together, our deeper needs can often go unmet because the convo gets hijacked by our reactions and defenses.
The thing is, your partner wants to get it right!
They just don't always know how... and it can take TIME to learn. Meanwhile we spend our precious life together...
having the same fights...
When we're fighting we can end up talking about everything other than the true heart of the matter - our vulnerable parts that need something.
feeling frustrated, disappointed & shut down
We think what we need is obvious and logical. And while we may not be aware, a lot of the time we're expecting our partner 'should know that' about us. While it may be obvious to us, it likely definitely isn't to them!
feeling unsure - and that's stressful as f****
Confusion is a silent killer of...everything and is the source of a lot of relationship stress. Most partners want to get it right and make their partner as happy with them as they can. But when things go awry confusion sets in, "How should I handle this?" Clear communication can be challenging when emotions are high.
What if we could cut down the time it takes for our partner to learn what our deeper needs are?
Imagine if your partner just KNEW,
without you having to say a thing...
That when you've just had a fight and are angry and sulking, you actually need a big bear hug, not space.
To handle dinner when you've had a stressful day at work because deciding what you want to eat is the bane of your existence.
That helping and supporting you when you're overwhelmed with life looks like massages, words of support and taking over decisions.
That you'd actually prefer a sentimental card over a gift for your anniversary.
That you need hugs and kisses and a few "You're so beautiful" 's throughout the week for you to WANT to be sexual with him.
When your partner knows how you operate,
they can show up better. And you can feel better loved- more often.
You fight less
They know your triggers, they know how to decode your reactivity, they know when you say no you mean this and when you say yes you mean that.
faster conflict repair
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You feel understood
They're not guessing. They're not confused. They get why you feel or act the way you do, and they know what to do - and not do, to help.
get your needs met
And feel more fulfilled in your relationship and with your partner. When the core needs under the issue are actually getting met - because they're finally known, you have peace!
Feel more connected
When we're consistently heard and seen, we naturally feel more connected with ourselves and our partner.
deeper healing
We're all a work in progress. We all have wounds that will definitely come out with our partners. When they know what they are and what they look like, they can become the most loving mirror.
Why make them guess when we already know exactly what we need?
YOUR USER'S MANUAL
A guided system to show your partner how you work, what you need and how to love you well.
Starting at
$37
HOW IT WORKS
ACCESS THE TEMPLATE
Access the Google Doc template for your manual with a free google/gmail account. You'll get the Original 'Operating Manual' cover and 14-17 topics with guided prompts. Choose for Her, for Him or His & Hers. Note: 'For Her' = she fills it out, 'For Him'= He fills it out.
FILL OUT YOUR GUIDE
Follow the prompts and examples I've carefully crafted and fill out your pre-formatted guide section by section. Complete it in one go or follow my suggested daily schedule (conveniently sent to your inbox daily) so you have your complete manual in just 7 days.
GIFT IT TO YOUR PARTNER
*Digital Copy: Send them the Google Doc link (if they have gmail) or the pdf link
*Print: At home or your local shop
*Get it Bound: Get it coil bound at your local shop.
Don't waste time on another argument... give Them the clarity you wish they had, today.
Inside the guide ↡
TOPICS DESIGNED TO FOCUS ON THE AREAS WE HAVE DEEP NEEDS, FEARS & UNSPOKEN EXPECTATIONS
DESIGNED TO BE...
PRACTICAL : Applicable to every day life, concise answers- no novels to read, easy look up & reference.
DEEP : Prompts that guide you into the heart of the matter to create deep support & healing, as well as in-the-moment support.
ENTERTAINING : While deep and practical, this is a super fun and cheeky way to get to know you and/or your partner.
A Deeper Look Inside the Topics
From the section: ❤️ How to Make Me Feel Loved
* What makes me feel safe and open
* What makes me shut down
* How I process emotions
* What makes me feel seen, loved and shiny
* What makes me feel connected to you
* What makes me feel disconnected...
* My essential, 'ME need's (aka without them I will not be a happy person)
* What consistency looks like to me
* What effort looks like to me
From the section: ⚠️ Triggers & Insecurities
* What makes me feel triggered / how it makes me feel/ where it comes from/ how I can react / what I'm doing to work on it / how you can help/ what makes it worse
*I get insecure when you...
* My general insecurities are...
* Unhealthy patterns I'm working on/ what it looks like (the unhealthy behavior)/ what's actually happening / where it comes from/ what you can do to help/ what doesn't help
Perfect for you if...
🍾 you're recently engaged or married 💍
BEST wedding gift ever?!?! That's what I did! A great way to speed the learning curve up when you're starting a new life together.
👨🏼🦳 You've been together forever 🥰
It's amazing how long it take us to learn what WE need to be loved, much less another person. There is ALWAYS something new to learn about our partners. This could be a great way to let your person know more about you, and to share some of those things you've been too afraid to bring up.
💃 you're single & WANT TO Prep for your best relationship 🥂
Being single is a tremendously wonderful time to really get to know YOU. This guide will help bring to light your deeper needs, values and preferences so when you enter into partnership next, you'll be so much more capable of communicating what you need. Think of it as a work in progress! Keep refining your manual until you meet 'the one' and then you can hand over your TREASURE TROVE of research.
🎁 LOOKING FOR THE PERFECT GIFT 🎉
This is such a wonderfully personal gift. Whether you want to keep it cheeky and light, or gift them something meaningful and sincere, Your User Manual will be like nothing they've ever received. OR, gift them a version for THEM to fill out and create their own user manual.
🕺 His & hers 💃
As I said, EVERY human needs one of these. While women tend to be known as the more complex version of the species, I feel that's often misunderstood. So guys, there's a whole, DIFFERENT version I made just for you with some slight differences in topics and prompts.
❌ not another bro-
AI digital product 🙄
You know what I'm talking about... the dudes out there churning off chat gpt 'guides' to make a buck.
This guide is carefully crafted with my 15 years' experience in the relationship & sexuality field.
It's designed to reveal your deepest needs and values concisely & clearly, so they know exactly what actions to take to bring support & love the way YOU need it.
Find your Perfect package
Essentials
$37
Lifetime access
• Google Doc Your User Manual template for Her OR Him
• Pre-designed Original Operating Manual Cover and Back cover
• Video tutorials to guide you through editing, sharing and printing your User Manual.
His & hers
$67
Lifetime access
• Everything in Essentials
• Google Doc templates for both His AND Hers versions of the manual
• 9 Additional Canva design templates for Her and 9 designs for Him.
STYLED
$45
Lifetime access
Everything in Essentials for Her OR Him
+ Access to 9 additional Canva Designs for your front and back covers.
feel understood, supported, connected and deeply nourished
Without...
• Endless Fighting....
• Getting it Wrong ....
• Feeling Defensive
• Wasting Time...
"Best. Gift. EVERRRR"
"This saved us from SO many fights..."
"I've been married ten years... I so wish we had this when we first got married."
"I bought this as a wedding gift for my husband and presented it at our reception... everyone thought it was hysterical and so spot on."
"HOWWW have I not found this before?!"
"Bought this for my wife's bday... I so need her manual. She will die over this, can't wait to give it to her and get the final product!"
"We did his and hers and exchanged them for our anniversary, SUCH a good experience!
"Now I just say, "it's in the manual, section 2!" 😂
what you get
* 14/17 Topics with prompts (his/hers), pre-formatted, ready for you to fill in with your own responses
*His and Hers versions each tailored to their own psychology, needs, relationship challenges and common opposite-sex misunderstandings.
*Choose between His version, Her version or get them as a set
*Easily organized by tabs for filling out and looking up
*Save and share as a PDF for digital sending or printing
*Save and share with a Google Drive link for easy mobile viewing and lookup
*One pre-designed Operating Manual cover Template included
*Optional add on for 9 additional Predesigned Canva Cover templates (to match any aesthetic)
*Printing Resources and how-to PDF
*Video tutorials to guide you through the tech of editing in Google Doc and Canva
Inside the Manual
Cover Designs
I got engaged to and married my husband at 41. The benefit? I knew how I operated...
When he proposed after just a year of dating I said, "But there's so much about me you don't know yet!" To which he sweetly replied, "I have a lifetime to learn." 🥺
But I wanted to do myself (and him 😜) a favor with a head start. So when we got married, I created a cheat-code to loving me and gifted him with... My User's Manual
It's been such an incredible tool, and I think EVERY human needs one...
I'm Stephanie, I help people stay true to themselves in a relationship.
I had many long-term relationships with GREAT men. But no matter what, I consistently felt unfulfilled and ended it believing 'they weren't the right person' or 'they weren't on my level or something similar...
Because I was so focused on self improvement, doing all the work and staying super aware of my patterns... I thought the issue had to be them.
I always knew that relationships were a mirror, but it wasn't until I learned how to actually put this into action that everything changed for me. I went from never being happy with him, to being the most loved, seen, open and joyful woman and partner.
And while becoming this had nothing to do with them, I wouldn't have found it without them 😜 . Through all this I learned exactly how to work with our relationships so we find our greatest self.. instead of totally losing site of her. And I'm here to help as many woman as possible do the same.
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Help your partner show up better, by showing them exactly how you operate.
Feel more met, seen, heard, understood and nourished with the love you need.
Find your Perfect package
Essentials
$37
Lifetime access
• Google Doc Your User Manual template
• Pre-designed Original Operating Manual Cover and Back cover
• Video tutorials to guide you through editing, sharing and printing your User Manual.
His & hers
$67
Lifetime access
• Everything in Essentials
• Google Doc templates for both His AND Hers versions of the manual
• 9 Additional Canva design templates for Her and 9 designs for Him.
STYLED
$45
Lifetime access
Everything in Essentials
+ Access to 9 additional Canva Designs for your front and back covers.
How tech savvy do I need to be?
You need to be able to access a google (gmail) account and do basic word processing tasks. Everything is pre-formatted and I even made tech videos to help you navigate editing, saving and printing in Google Drive. For Canva, it's SO simple, just follow my videos.
What if I don't have a Google or Canva account?
You can easily create one for free in both platforms. Just signup and keep your login info handy.
Can I print this out?
Yes! I designed this to be printed out either at home or at your local shop (Staples, FedEX etc) and coil bound - like a true Operating Manual. Printing and binding should only cost about $25.
Do I need a computer?
Ideally, yes. The manual is most easily edited on a desktop or larger device. However it's not impossible to do just with phone! Give it a go!
Give them the clarity they've always wanted.
Find your Perfect package
Essentials
$37
Lifetime access
• Google Doc Your User Manual template
• Pre-designed Original Operating Manual Cover and Back cover
• Video tutorials to guide you through editing, sharing and printing your User Manual.
His & hers
$67
Lifetime access
• Everything in Essentials
• Google Doc templates for both His AND Hers versions of the manual
• 9 Additional Canva design templates for Her and 9 designs for Him.
STYLED
$45
Lifetime access
Everything in Essentials
+ Access to 9 additional Canva Designs for your front and back covers.